Hold the Rope: Leadership, Fatherhood, and the Power of Men’s Circles
What does it mean to be a strong leader - not just in business, but at home?
In a recent podcast episode, business coach and men’s work facilitator David Stegman shared powerful insights on leadership, identity, and navigating the challenges of fatherhood. He spoke about archetypes, adaptability, and the importance of support networks - ideas that resonate deeply with anyone balancing professional ambition with personal growth.
One of the most striking moments of the episode was when David described a turning point in his own life. At a time when his relationship was strained, he turned to a mentor, who offered him a simple but profound piece of advice:
"Hold the rope."
This phrase became a metaphor for perseverance, not just in relationships, but in leadership and fatherhood. When things feel chaotic, overwhelming, or uncertain, sometimes the best thing you can do is hold on a little longer and trust that clarity will come.
Expanding Your Leadership Range
David also introduced the concept of a "leadership keyboard." Just as a musician can play different notes to create harmony, an effective leader (whether in business or family life) must develop a broad range of responses.
Are you always in "assertive mode" at work, only to struggle with patience at home?
Do you rely too much on the "people pleasing" key, leaving yourself drained?
Are you flexible enough to shift between discipline, compassion, and playfulness when the moment calls for it?
Great leadership isn’t about rigid dominance; it’s about range. It’s about knowing when to step in, when to step back, and when to support rather than control.
Why Men’s Circles Matter
Another key theme of the episode was the power of men’s circles and support networks. Too often, men face struggles in isolation, whether it’s career pressure, relationship challenges, or the shift into fatherhood. But David emphasized that real strength comes not from doing it alone, but from leaning into trusted spaces where honesty and support exist.
Fatherhood, leadership, and personal growth don’t happen in a vacuum. They require community, conversation, and mentorship.
Key Takeaways
"Hold the rope" - Persevere through the toughest moments
Expand your leadership range - Don’t just play one note
Surround yourself with a strong support network
If you're navigating the challenges of leadership - at work, at home, or within yourself - this conversation with David Stegman is a ‘must listen’.
What leadership "keys" are you playing most often? Are there areas where you need to expand?
